Friday, May 21, 2010

ASSSKKKK KARYN: Wedding Wanker

Dear Karyn,

I have a wedding etiquette question for you! Did I spell etiquette right??? WAIT - Don't answer that. I don't want that to count as my one question.

Answer this one instead: What's the protocol on giving wedding gifts to people who didn't give you one? I just received a wedding invitation from a couple who came to my wedding and didn't get me diddly squat, not even a card. Now they're getting married and have requested guests give them cash as gifts.

Am I *required* to give them a present?


Long time reader for life



Yes you did spell "etiquette" right. Take care. bye-bye.

haha. jk jk.

Ok, here's my honest opinion - I would only get them a card. I'd say don't bother getting them anything -not even a card- but I can't imagine anyone being so rude as to not even bring a card to a wedding. And I would definitely NOT get them a gift, especially not money. It sounds like they're clueless when it comes to giving & friendship & other people's needs, but greedy when it comes to their own.

It may sound petty, but they didn't give you diddly squat, don't give THEM diddly squat. And don't even get me started on how rude it is to request monetary gifts at your wedding!

On second thought, maybe anonymously give the bride this book....




  1. Yes Sherri. You STILL have to buy me a wedding present.

    Love Meredith

  2. But the book retails for $15.95!!!!!!

    No, Meredith. I will get you a card that says:

    "To the happy couple. Enjoy the card because this is all I got you."

  3. Give them a gift you didn't like from your wedding. Bonus points if it's still in the wrapping and the tag reading the wrong name. Like 'The Drewes' or something.

  4. Hahahaha! Great idea! I have two figurines of couples embracing that I didn't much care for. I'll just re-wrap those and give a card we got!

    ps. I'm seriously considering re-gifting at least one of the figurines. That's a brilliant idea!

  5. Maybe they couldnt afford to get you anything at the time.

    Also, the couple in question have probably already read your blog.

    How awkward...

  6. Hey! A lot of couples have lived with each other for years before they get married and have all of the "house stuff" they need, but no house. I think asking for money, if done tastefully, is fine. The last two couples whose weddings I attended asked for $$ because they wanted to add to a down payment. That seems more responsible than a fancy china set and tea towels.


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